LOVED ON A WEDNESDAY ^!^

Posted by: yeyo da poet  :  Category: Poetry

Well since its my beautiful bornday, I have something nice & sweet for ya ;) Ladies you will feel this & I hope that my fellas can understand the notion…Here we go
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I just wanna be loved on a
Wednesday
Not because its Valentine’s Day,
Christmas or my Birthday
Just because its the day after Tuesday
& the day before Thursday
Just because its a day that ends
with “y”
See, I…I… I just wanna be loved on
a Wednesday
A day when I’m standing at the stove
with my knees bent back…
My dreads freshly twisted with clips
in them & my scarf on…
I just wanna be loved on a
Wednesday
Because its a mid-summer’s day with
juices from honeydew melon drippin’
from the tips of my fingers…
A frosty winter’s day with the steam
of hot cocoa intoxicating my nostrils…
I…I… Yeeeeeaaaa, I just wanna be loved
on a Wednesday
When monthly labor pains are
wrecking my belly & I’m a lil cranky…
But you massage my back &
speak melodies to my belly pains…
Baby…I just wanna be loved on
a Wednesday
When my feet are swollen &
I’ve put on a few extra pounds because
I carry your love child…
And when I’m breathing heavy,
screamin’ & cussin’ at the top of my lungs
& my face is contorted because I’m
pushin’ through the pain…
Love me…
Just love me like its a Wednesday

YeYo aka RAW SUGA’

In Love Alone ^!^

Posted by: yeyo da poet  :  Category: Poetry

How I wish this were fiction… Alright here we go
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Hangin’ on a hope & a dream…
I was foolish
So foolish to believe I meant
anything to you
My characteristics didn’t matter…
I was just a wet spot
But I couldn’t stop…
Couldn’t stop loving you &
dying slowly
I gave myself to you &
got nothing in return
Nothing but an empty space
where love should have been
But there was no love there…
Just calculated manipulation playin’
pain on my heart strings
See, I was just your play thing
And you yoyo’d my emotions around
like it was nothing
It was as easy as breathing
to you
You ‘screwed’ me while I was
‘making love’ to you
While I did things I said
I would neva’ do,
you neva’ did what you said
you would do
So I was left in a cacoon of
heartache & misery
But I didn’t emerge as
no butterfly
I emerged as a bird without wings
& all I could do was gaze at the sky…
Wishing
Hoping
Praying
that one day, I would love someone
that would love me back
You didn’t care that I believed in you
more than I believed in myself
You didn’t care that I loved you
so much, I would carry your burdens
if I could
You didn’t care that…
You didn’t care…
You didn’t…
You…
You didn’t look back once after
you broke my heart repeatedly
to see if I would recover
You were my lover
But you neva’ decided in your
mind that “I should lov-her”
You left me to my own devices
Knowing that living without you was a crisis
You left me on my own
And I was left with the horrible
task of being in love alone…

YeYo aka RAW SUGA’

The Resurrecting Writers Series: the Reasons Why

Posted by: Admin  :  Category: Literature

Early in my reading life, I remember encountering the story of Alice Walker’s search for Zora Neale Hurston’s grave in Florida. The part that stands out in my memory is how she “could not bear that [Hurston] did not have a known grave”. So she traipsed around the cemetery, asking questions of the caretakers and eventually finding the spot which she marked with a modest gravestone.

Later in my reading life, I heard about a book called Two Thousand Seasons. I was about to travel to East for a family visit and wanted to read it while I was there. I called a local bookstore there and asked for it. The employee I talked to thought it was a cookbook. After that was straightened out, she informed that she would have to order it.

From the time Walker paid respect to Hurston’s life work – and its significance to her – to the time I called that bookstore represents a time frame of over twenty years. How many books – and their writers – are lying in metaphorical graves –overgrown with the weeds of neglects? How can we as writers push our craft forward if we don’t know our literary history? What message are we sending to children if we don’t know our own words but yet, for example, can talk about the racism in Othello?

Now, to be clear, this series is not meant to be an advertisement for literary canons. The well-known will not be included – unless they have work which has been rendered invisible, for one reason or another. Also, as it currently stands, these resurrections are based on my personal taste, knowledge and awareness. If there is a writer you’d like to see resurrected, please email your suggestion(s) to me at – tichaona@inthewhirlwind.com

Urban Home Gardening in the Fall

Posted by: Admin  :  Category: gardening

When I first started gardening in June, I had no idea that it would take root in my heart the way it has. Even with winter fast approaching, I don’t want to give up growing my own food. so I started looking into micro greens. I particularly wanted to grow spinach – even though I didn’t have a fire escape or a balcony. It would have to be grown inside on my window sill. My apartment gets great natural light so that wouldn’t be a problem. I had plenty seeds left over from summer enthusiasm shopping. Containers? Check! I even got gung-ho with recycling when I took a helmet that no longer fits my son, removed the bright colors and used the base as a container for collard greens.

 

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but I started out wanting spinach. so that was my first “experiment”. It’s turning out well. Those first initial leaves have given way to tinier than tiny true “baby” spinach leaves.

 

 

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Below is what the spinach container looks like regular sized.

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Arugula which I tried started growing late in the summer and found I loved.

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This are turnip greens which are growing verrrry slowly – even though they have the most room of all.

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Below is my bean plant. I might have to transplant this into my actual garden as it is soon going to outgrow the cup. It might not ever grow beans but I am looking into the edibility of its leaves.

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These being mainly cool weather crops I keep one window open almost all day. I close it at night when/if it gets bitterly cold. That, and the bugs which grow along with the plants, are the only negative aspects of this enterprise. However, the fresh air is nice and the bugs led to an interesting discussion with my son about Earth’s ability to grow things – and maybe even people.

Today is National Day on Writing

Posted by: Admin  :  Category: writing

Yesterday, on twitter, I saw a tweet about National Day on Writing. The title, admittedly awkward, is representative of a desire to “celebrate the significance of writing in our everyday lives” according to the developers of the initiative, The National Council of English Teachers.

As a writer, it was immediately intriguing to me but as I read further, I realized it wasn’t focused exclusively on literary writing. It also included everyday forms of writing such as texts, emails, actual physical letters, shopping lists.

Seeing the inclusion of actual physical letters reminded me of how much I depend on electronic media for my writing. I started getting into computers around 2000. Before that time, I wrote all my poems by hand. Even after I started using computers, I would write out copies of my poems by hand. Now that I don’t even do that. I’ve committed fully to the computer age.

Therefore my observance of National Day on Writing will be to wipe off my dusty black journal and copy by hand all the poems in Contraband Marriage.

How will you honor National Day on Writing?

Sometimes It Takes A Death: Mother to Mother – a Book Review

Posted by: Admin  :  Category: Book Reviews, Books, Literature

Drawing from the 1993 killing of Amy Biehl in apartheid-era South Africa, Mother to Mother, a novel by Sindiwe Magona, shares with us a different perspective.  Literature about murders of white people by black people tend to avoid the women in the killer’s life – unless it’s framed in terms of pathology. In Native Sun, for instance, the women were silent [as well as the first to be killed]. It is very rare for such women to be allowed to narrate their own life stories. With her quietly powerful novel, Magona has changed that dynamic.

From the author’s preface (abbreviated):

Fulbright scholar Amy Elizabeth Biehl was set upon and killed by a mob of black youth in Guguletu, South Africa in August 1993. The outpouring of grief, outrage and support for the Biehl family was unprecedented in the history of the country.

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In my novel, there is only one killer. Through his mother’s memories, we get a glimpse of human callousness of the kind that made the murder of Amy Biehl possible. And here I am back in the legacy of apartheid – a system repressive and brutal, that bred senseless inter- and intra-racial violence as well as other nefarious happenings; a system that promoted a twisted sense of right and wrong, with everything seen through the warped prism of the overarching crime against humanity, as the international community labelled it.

The mother, Mandisa, had her oldest child, Mxolisi – the one who, through his actions, catapults her into narration – when she was a 15 year old school girl. It has to be noted that, at the time of her pregnancy. Mandisa was a virgin.  The inclusion of an African immaculate conception raises immediate questions concerning Magona’s intent. Was it by design – the correlation between Mary and Mandisa and Jesus and Mxolisi. Or was it simply happenstance – a byproduct of the story line? Considering that Mother to Mother is Magona’s first novel (although not her first book), the latter might be more legitimate. 

The legitimacy of the questions, however. is overshadowed by the undeniable fact that both Mxolisi and Jesus were instrumental in bringing about changes in their respective status quos. As a result of the crucifixion of Jesus, Christianity became a potent force in the world. Subsequent to the killing of Amy Biehl, the death knoll for apartheid – which had been slowly but steadily ringing for decades – increased in volume to the point that it no longer was a “knoll” but a toyi toyi, the martial dance which symbolized the determination of South Africa’s majority black population to never again live as a disenfranchised minority.

Going the Jesus route, however, in explaining the murder of Biehl sidesteps the question Mandisa herself asks, over and over again.

What was she doing, vagabonding all over Gugulethu, of all places; taking her foot where she had no business? Where did she think she was going? Was she blind not to see there were no white people in this place?

Or does it? Did Amy Biehl demonstrate a god complex by treading where no white person went?  Did she think her presence in South Africa as a well meaning white person assisting with the transition to a democratically elected government would protect her from repercussions of apartheid? Was she so divorced from the harsh reality that produced slogans like one settler, one bullet that she thought it perfectly logically to drive her black companions to Gugulethu? 

There will probably never be a definitive answer to such questions. However, Mandisa herself provides a perspective – one that both reinforces the primacy of her life as well as highlights of the consequences of disconnectedness.

Now, your daughter has paid for the sins of the fathers and mothers who did not do their share of seeing that my son had a life worth living.

The Grace of a Decision

Posted by: Admin  :  Category: Literature, Poetry, writing

The Grace of a Decision

 We can do this sort of…uhhh…

Rocking words into the universe of science.

Words that bring back golden beams of silence

Splattering the bound with bursts of sky blue.

 

We can be like butterflies:

Pretty…delicate yet causing catastrophes

On the other side of a nowhere we’ve ever seen

Because where we been is always somewhere.

 

– or –

 

We can be heavy with gravity

- too overloaded with circuitry to pay attention to heart –

Doomed to die instead of do.

 

We can be like lepers

segregated from the decent into dysfunction

prevalent everywhere we’re not.

 

– or –

 

We can perpetuate like the world is our oyster

While muting mutual distaste for mollusks.

 

There are so many ways to go about it

But I prefer our preference of unity first.

 

Lets tap into ancestral grace

Whispering our intent with breath

That tastes…and carries…like wind

Of change.

 

Excerpted from Contraband Marriage

No Wedding, No Womb: Putting a Ring On It Isn’t the Solution

Posted by: Admin  :  Category: motherhood, sexuality

I don’t think Aomuse’s position and mine are that far apart although I don’t support the ‘concept of “No Wedding, No Womb” (NWNW) on the basis of the principle that it advocates’. I’m not against couples raising children together. Neither am I against single women raising children ‘by themselves’- although I don’t know one single mother who is doing it “by herself’’ given the extended family structures prevalent in the black community. I am, however, against the notion that children shouldn’t be conceived unless certain qualifications are met. I am against using the statistic of 72% of black children being born out of wedlock to frighten people into getting organized against a woman’s right to have a child whether married or not. Therefore, my response to the question in his blog title: No Wedding, No Womb: Too Simplistic for its own Good? is a resounding yes.

The NWNW website’s FAQ’s states the qualification for “a couple” bringing a child into the world as being “emotionally, physically and financially able to care for them”. Where is it written that “a couple” has to be married in order to be emotionally, physically and financially able to care for their children? In the bible? As he stated, he and his child’s mother are not married and are not a couple but they are definitely committed to do the work required to “fashion a conscious and committed young African daughter”.

In a perfect Cosby world, that would be the norm. Parents wouldn’t have to worry about paying for their children’s after school program, for example, because well, mom’s a lawyer and dad’s a doctor. However the Cosby ideal of parenting isn’t the norm. It’s TV.

That is in essence my problem with NWNW. It takes a complex problem and boils it down to the simple arithmetic that marriage = being “emotionally, physically and financially able to care” for children. As the founder of the “movement” herself said:

I would say again, like the professor, that there are a host of reasons why it’s happening. And that’s the reason why I got people together from various backgrounds – conservative, liberal, Republican, Democrat, Christian, Muslim, Jewish – together because I cannot as one person go through all of the reasons why we’re here.

But I will say I don’t care why we’re here. I don’t care how we got here. All I care is that we need to do something.

I don’t understand how  a problem can be solved without looking at the factors that created the problem. Actually, I do understand. Not caring about “how we got here” allows NWNW to zero in on women as breeders as the essence of the problem instead of a symptom of a bigger problem – the lack of a supportive culture that allows a woman who gives birth to a child without the “benefit” marriage to not feel as if she has to go out and buy a wedding ring, put it on her finger and pretend she is now sanctioned to have a child.